Thursday, February 21, 2013

One of those posts where I use my blog as a public diary...ick.

The fantasy of the white-picket fence doesn’t allure me, nor will it ever. Which is why I’m always so confused when I attract such straight-laced, stable, men. Who want to go to college, get a job, and have sex 2.5 times a week (tops) for the rest of their lives.

Don’t act like men like that don’t exist, they do. And don’t scoff at their dreams of happiness no matter how normal those dreams seem to you. Happiness is happiness and no one can take that away from anyone.

What confuses (and hurts) me the most, is knowing I will never be able to provide that life for them. I can’t give them that sense of normalcy while still staying the same girl they fell in love with.

We both know it. We’ll feed into the lie as long as possible, as long as we are both mutually content with the unspoken agreement of what’s to come. Either I adapt to my new surroundings or I give up and run away from what most girls call the final prize.

Now I’m not completely at fault for “us” not working, when I had been so honest with what I wanted in my life from the get go. Yet, we are both guilty of blindly looking the other way every time reality reared it’s ugly head.

I was selfish. But so were you. We both wanted what the other wouldn’t provide. We both knew it was a possibility, too. That’s what makes it so much harder now. We’ll always hate each other for that reason alone. Especially for knowing we exposed ourselves to what could have been, if we had both tried a little harder. If we had both sacrificed a little bit of us.

But we didn’t. I don’t think we ever will. It’s what makes us so unattainable, yet so attractive to the opposite sex. In that sense, we are the same.

I know exactly what you want. And I know exactly what you need. They are not the same thing. And don’t even pretend like they are, cause if that were case, we wouldn’t be here.

You hate me. Just admit it. You hate everything that I represent in your life. You hate everything that is missing in your life because of me. I’m okay with that. I will always be okay with that.

What we were, was different. What we were, made me rethink about what could come. But at the end of the day, I still chose me. And I’m sorry.

And I’m sorry that I’m not sorry. 


  1. This was so relevant that it hurt.

    We attract straight-laced men when it's not what we want because most men are always up for that challenge. You think you want a bad boy who will always keep you on your toes and keep your toes curling? No baby, you want ME. I have beers on Sundays with the guys and have an average job that supports my average lifestyle and average abilities. I'm trustworthy and a great person but I'm so boring that you'll hate me after a year. I CAN MAKE YOU WANT ME.

    It's sad when the things that make us happy are just so different that there's no way to bring it all together.

    Hats off to you for choosing yourself. I love coming here, because I have zero white-picket-fence fantasies either.

  2. Good piece.

    So here's my own little melodrama, diary-esque post. We can feel pathetic together! Err wait a second... you're not feeling pathetic at all are you?

  3. Found your blog thru another blogger. I really like your's!
    Visit me at Bad Word Mama sometime. :)

  4. Found your blog through my old blog. I knew there was a reason we crossed paths.

    All I can say is AMEN, i face the exact same situation day in day out ... the perks of being a fabulous wierdo ;-)